When
you experience a connection problem in your home network, the first impulse of
any individual who uses her common sense is to run a diagnostics. You check if everything is in place. Similar things happen in your
relationship. Sometimes, it comes to a
certain point when you feel that love is gone yet you can’t be so sure.
There
are little issues that are normal but there are also things that are indicative
that love has ended. Here are 7 clues
that will help you reevaluate your relationship and determine if it’s really
over.
#1)
Withdrawal
When
thrill is gone, it’s just no fun. In
this case, two extreme emotions are involved, it’s either you get very annoyed
or you’re being super calm. With the
former, you find his mere presence very irritating. With the latter, you’re expressionless and
bored. You don’t feel any interest in
doing anything with him at all. You
don’t crave for emotional intimacy and you just want to distance yourself.
#2)
Too Much Drama
Your
relationship has turned into a Spanish soap opera. There are a lot of excessive acting,
never-ending fights and too many conflicts.
Same intensity format happens every single day. You criticize each other and you’re both
keeping a tally of each other’s mistakes.
Instead
of asking, “What is your reason for doing that?” you say, “Are you out of your
mind or you’re just plain stupid?” Any
type of attack to your partner’s character can drain all the love remaining in
your relationship. Furthermore, if
there’s inability to resolve issues, it’s a clear signal that the end is just
ahead.
#3)
Disrespect
Respect
is being mindful and considerate of your partner’s feelings. It doesn’t involve physical or emotional
abuse, like beating or blackmailing someone into submission just to get things
in your way. It is unhealthy and should
never be acceptable in any relationship.
This also includes talking bad about your partner behind his back and
public humiliation. If you’ve been
experiencing these things, run as fast as you can. This is not something that you should
overlook.
#4)
Third Party
Outside
entanglements, including emotional affairs, are clear signs of unmet
needs. Redirecting your focus to a potential
love interest won’t solve anything and will just draw the energy from your
relationship. It is highly disruptive
and can disintegrate all the love away.
Also,
bringing the baggage of your previous relationship to your current one is not
only wrong but unfair.
#5)
Irreparable Trust
According
to Psychology Today, “A betrayal is a broken
agreement, implicit or explicit, that is considered vital to the integrity of a
relationship.” However, it’s not easy to forgive and forget
and sometimes,
the effects of betrayal are not fixable.
Whether you’re trying to fool your partner or yourself doesn’t really
matter. Speaking untruthful words won’t
protect your relationship, it only delays the damage.
#6)
Sex Has Become an Obligation
You
can’t just lie down there like a starfish forever. Sooner or later, you’ll get fed up. Once lovemaking started to feel like a
responsibility, there is no arguing that your relationship is in great
danger. Sex is not overrated and there
are a lot of reasons why it is important.
Being intimate brings you and your partner closer to each other. If there’s an absence of sexual chemistry,
then clearly, your relationship will fail.
#7)
Unwillingness to Work Things Out
When
you refuse to make an effort to make things better and when you’re not trying
you’re best to smoothen things out, then you’re not giving your relationship a
fair shot. Ideally, partners should work
together but even if there’s only one person who’s doing his part, if it makes
you feel any better, the relationship could still work out somehow.
Happy
endings are rare but it is not impossible.
So, communicate before it’s too late.
Be open to your partner in the best way possible. Tell him everything that bothers you and let
him do the same. Be appreciative even
with little things. Making a relationship
last requires hard work.
On
the contrary, love is gone when all you see on your partner’s end are his flaws
and imperfections and when all you feel in his presence is nothing but negative
energy. If you no longer care, don’t be
cruel and at least give your partner a chance to be happy with someone
else. You should also do the same favor
for yourself. If you don’t want the
person around, get a roommate instead.
In
addition, if you’re going to try to work things out again, make sure that you
put all the necessary effort and give it your best shot or else you’ll end up
suffering in a postmortem syndrome called regrets.
Sometimes,
you have to let go to see if there’s anything worth holding on. Do you think that the signs above are
fixable? Enlighten us with your
experience by leaving a comment below.
